Women Are SICK Of Weaponized Incompetence

Yeah, I know you just worked a 72 hour shift, but I was gonna go watch you game with the boys, but if you really need me, I guess I can stay. Go lay down relax, you deserve it, you've earned it. But by the way, before you go, can the kids have beer? I forgot, can they have beer? Hey babe, sorry to wake you and you're resting,

but can you just real quick show me how the toaster works? Do you know where the remote is? Women online are speaking out about what's been dubbed, weaponized and confidence. When a person acts like they aren't capable of or don't know how to do something that's important, but it's simple everyday task. In order to avoid having to do it, sure it's not only men who do

this, but let's be honest with ourselves. It's mostly men, and I'm not just saying that and just pull that out of my ass. There's data to back it up, so let's get into it from the Huffington Post. The Gallup study conducted in the United States found that even among egalitarian minded millennial couples, women are still more likely to clean the house, shop for groceries, cook meals,

and make decisions about furnishing and decorating the home. I know that's right. The study found that when men do take on a few domestic responsibilities, they take their cues from older generations and pick up tasks that can be done on their own schedules like car maintenance and yard work. Now this term got renewed attention. This month when a Twitter user asked people to share their personal

anecdotes of weaponizing competence. And let me promise you the threads did not disappoint. Let's start here with Kelly Mangin, who said, I asked my ex a 40 year old man who'd been living on his own for 20 years. If he'd boil some water in the kettle for me, and he asked, how do I do that? To be clear, this was his house, his stove and his

kettle. We have this one from Ruth Ann who said, my ex put blue leech in a dark load intentionally. When I asked why he said, because I don't want to do laundry, and you'll never ask me to do it again. And then this one, my ex's favorite joke was he didn't know how to cook and deliberately misinterpreted instructions. Ask him to brown the ground beef in

the pan on the stove and he tossed the whole container styrofoam plastic and all in that bitch. Now we've got some more examples of the jink. I have to ask as a man. Have you ever done any weaponizing? Have you ever done any weaponizing competence? Me. Never. Never. Okay, seriously, first of all, I will discuss and debate whether I'm guilty of this. I'm going to give

you an example later. Okay. But first, let me give you examples of my life from other people. So time to throw folks out of the bus. Okay. So this is not only man, my grandmother used to do this all the time. Oh, I can't reach the dishes. I guess someone else has to accept the table. Oh, cooking. Yeah, I'm such a bad cook. Do you really

want me to? Okay, you're cooking great. Okay. So this is a trick as old as time. Okay. And now I'll use a guy's example with other guys, not with women. And so I was sorry, Steve, but I throw them under the bus every time he used to be here. You used to do aggressive progressive with us. When we played football every time once in a while,

the teams would get so large we'd have an office of line. But nobody wants to play line. They want to play quarterback. And Steve is a pretty good quarterback. And he wants to play quarterback. He wants to play it, but we'd have to rotate the positions. So whenever he played offensive line, he just let the guy right through. And we'd get sacked every time. He'd be

like, oh, I am so bad at offensive line. I guess I have to be quarterback again. So this is not just about housework. It's done in a thousand other contexts. That's why I love this story. And now that like if you didn't know about it before and you didn't know the term before, now you're going to think about all the time because you're going to see

it in your personal life and go weaponizing competence. Okay. So now, Ray, have I done it? Yes. The question is, was I right or wrong? Okay. So there are two caveats here in my opinion. One is, yeah, but who's better at that task? Okay. And I'm serious. So for example, I do suck at cooking. And so I haven't cooked my whole life even when I was

single for a long time and broke. The max I could do was mac and cheese. Okay. And then I came up with one dish, one dish that I could do. Spaghetti ala, ala jenka. Okay. And what that is is spaghetti butter. And then I throw two eggs on top of it. Like two sunny side up eggs. And then I mixed it up and I go, yeah,

look at that. Okay. So that's all I got. Anything more complicated, I never did it for myself. Okay, even what I really needed to because I was broke. I still didn't do it. I was like, I'll just eat more cereal and more hot pockets, right? So you're just not good at some things. And that's real. And some things I'm better than my wife or my partners,

the center, whoever it might be. And I go, why would you do it? No, I'll handle that. Like, what am I going to have them lug around stuff when I'm like significantly larger than them? And I'm lugging, I got no problem. And the other thing is, and now this is the controversial one, who's working more? And again, this is not a male or female thing. I

know a couple where the woman works in finance. And it's not just that she makes a gigandum money, which she does. But she works long hours and the husband works part time. Well, then brother, it's on you to pick up the load, right at home. And he does. And he does, right? But I think those are important caveats, thoughts. I actually totally agree with you. And

I have a personal example from my life that I was going to say anyway. So it works out perfectly. My mom is the breadwinner in my family. And my dad, he is a musician. He mostly works weekends. Sometimes he would work nights. He's mostly retired now, but my mom is younger. So she still works a full-time job. She's always been the nine to five every single

day person. So my dad was the person who cooked for us at home. My dad was the person who, you know, got us ready to go to school in the morning, because my mom would go to work before him. And so my mom is the person who comes home. And she sits down on the couch. And she's like, oh, you know, I don't have a drink.

Genshul stare at my dad like, oh, could you go get me a diet Pepsi? So she's definitely the person. I mean, she does a lot. I don't want to like take that away from her. She does all the laundry. She's the person who works. And my dad's never been exceptional at that. But my mom is the person who definitely like sits down after work and is

think, oh, yeah, it's just an excuse. No. If someone is up, it's way better for them to get something than the person who's sitting, right? So if I'm up as someone asked me to get something, I think, yeah, of course, I'm already up, right? But like if I'm sitting and I ask someone who's up to get something, they catch feelings like 89% of the time. They're

like, yeah, I guess you don't want to get it. I'm like, no, I'd have to get out from like behind this thing and walk all the way around and you're right next to it. Can you just just grab it, right? But I don't know. But everybody's biased. I'm biased too. So maybe I'm seeing it differently. I gotta say, we got some other examples. But before I

get it, I have to say, my brother and I, we always followed the rule. Whoever's closer has to get it. So before he would ask me to get something, he would strategically get up and walk away. So he would be a little bit cheating, but you guys are on the right track though. That was his weaponized account. But like, like we're saying, it's not just in

relationships. It's family members who do it too. So we've got some examples of that. This Twitter account said, my dad is 73 and claims not to know how to run the watching machine. I gotta say, I don't understand people who say, I don't know how to run the dishwasher. I don't know how to run the washing machine. Just press the button. It's right there. It's self

explanatory. It's not all right. But then Taylor said, my dad hasn't learned how to use any of the washing machines we've ever had. He knows how to use the ones at the laundry mat, but only goes there and only does his laundry when my mom gets fed up enough with his stuff and goes on strike. Dr. Pepper, baby. I had to read this God's name. I

love it so much. Dr. Pepper Sugar, baby, says, not my relationship, but we no longer have glass dishes in the house. Because every time my dad's been asked to do dishes, he purposefully breaks the glass to prove he can't walk glass. And then this last one, if you could believe it is the most insane one. My extra few seclean is bad. I'm not sure if I

can do it. But when he moved out, the faucet wasn't working and I learned he hadn't showered in at least six weeks. And was just using baby wipes. No, that one. So I'm so glad you brought that one in Rayvada. That's the one where I was like, no, dude. That's wrong. Come on, right? But at the same time, that one is ironic if you're thinking about

it. Because a dude who doesn't shower for six weeks, that isn't about other people. He really couldn't figure it out.